If you’re happy and you know it…or not…

“Hello world, hear the song that we’re singin’
Come on, get happy
A whole lotta lovin’ is what we’ll be bringin’
We’ll make you happy” -The Partridge Family

If you are from my generation, you now have this song stuck in your head for the rest of the day (You’re Welcome). I can’t speak for anyone else but, when I hear that song, I can’t help but smile. Some songs do that, that is the power of music. I loved watching The Partridge Family and yes I was a David Cassidy fan. The guy had it all, the look, the smile, the voice and the hair. I was only around 9 years old so, I really didn’t understand how big a star he was at that time. This guy was the biggest concert attraction in the world in the early 70’s. He sold more tickets than Elvis, The Beatles and the Rolling Stones. I read his biography a few years back, a very good read mind you, and I was amazed to see just how miserable this guy was with his life back then. How could a guy that popular, that famous be unhappy? David Cassidy, for all his stardom, money and popularity, was not happy with who he had become. He lost himself in all of that and lost his happiness, it just faded away.

It took me almost 50 years to figure out the true meaning of happiness, for me anyway. I have mentioned my self-esteem issues before and I am sure some of you reading this have had the same type of issues in your life. I used to long to be popular so I could be happy. If I was just one of the popular kids, I just knew I would find happiness. Or, If I just had a girlfriend, someone who loved me for me, then I would truly be happy. I had 1001 different scenarios on ways to find happiness, if I could just find a way to make just one of them work. Now I know how incredibly silly I was back then. The one thing that kept me from being happy was right there, every time I looked in a mirror. I wasn’t a happy person because I did not love me. The key to mine and your happiness is in you. Once I grasped that concept, I began to live a happier life and my world changed for the better. You have to love and be happy with yourself before anyone else will.

I have known people who are filthy rich that are the most miserable people in the world and I have known people who live paycheck to paycheck and are the happiest people I know. Money does not bring happiness, this I can tell you. I have had incomes ranging from 20,000 to 100,000 a year and all the money or lack there of didn’t help with my happiness at all. I used to play sports and to hear the crowd clap when I did good or to hear my name over the loud-speaker gave me moments of happiness but not sustainable. I used to sing in a band few years back, I wasn’t very good but, some seemed to like it. I sang on television and once even at the Ryman Auditorium. The cheers and applause made me happy, for a short while. But, I wasn’t happy with me so it could not last. My son Ethan is one of the happiest people I know. He is so self-confident and so comfortable in his skin that is simply amazing to me. He could care less if you or anyone else likes him, he likes himself. He has plenty of friends and enjoys just being him. I wish I had that confidence when I was his age. I am proud of the young man he is and what the future holds for him. He learned at an early age, the key to being happy is being happy with who you are. Took me almost 50 years to get that, he got it in less that 15.

Be happy with who you are. Be happy in your own skin. I really believe that if you truly want to live a healthy lifestyle, you need to be healthy not only physically but mentally as well. The mind is a powerful thing and it can work for you or against you. It can change the way you see yourself, in a good way or bad way. Find what make you happy about you and concentrate on that. Find your happiness and the right people will come into your life to enhance your happiness. Don’t count on others for your happiness, it never works. Do this for yourself and see the change that happens in your life. I mean Come on, Get Happy!

 

 

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